14 Sep, 2017

Do you sometimes feel misunderstood? Misunderstood even by yourself, and that you and yourself need to talk? “Proprioceptive writing” is designed for just this kind of solo discussion. You integrate your emotions and imagination, find authentic insights, strengthen your sense of self, and improve self-understanding.

18 Jun, 2016

A lesbian Muslim in cammo cargo pants sat on my left and a youngish white male Afrikaner from an insurance company on my right. Immediately opposite, a black female psychologist/entrepreneur told us she didn’t like men much. Completing the group was our female Jewish facilitator, and me. White. Male. Late middle-aged. Encrusted with privilege. All of us South African. I haven’t been the same since.

21 Dec, 2016

“Oh no!” he realised, “The number plates!”. His family name was on the plates and it was Rhodes. He was on his way to UCT and naturally he turned back. (No urban legend. He told me himself.) Words in South Africa are highly charged, and old faithfuls like “racism” and “violence” would be high voltage enough if we all had the same meanings for these words. But we don’t. For some South Africans, “violence” need no longer involve physical force, and physically harming someone is no longer

01 Oct, 2016

Some say 60 is the new 40. I’m glad they’re wrong.

11 May, 2016

Lists, especially numbered lists, are tailored for our brains to process information efficiently. The downside is that they discourage deep and creative thought, and may be remodelling the way we think. That could be bad.

11 May, 2016

Our learning and psychosocial development continues throughout our lives, in ongoing cycles of renewal. At times it will feel like there’s no way through, but there is. The way out is through, and it’s worth it.